10 Things Not to Say to a Sugar mummy

It’s tough being an almost 30-something, single woman out there and I’m sure it’s tough being a friend/co-worker/relation to an almost 30-something, single woman. Just to help you out here are the top 10 things not to say to us.

  1. So, what’s new? Anything new and exciting in your life? I know this is code for “Are you dating anyone?” Just don’t ask. If I meet someone I can guarantee you I’ll be talking about him because I’ll be so excited and because it doesn’t happen very often.
  2. I recently went to a fun, charity dinner event for firefighters to raise money for a burn treatment centre. It’s such a great cause and of course that’s why I signed up… or for the possibility of meeting my future husband. And I know everyone else is thinking the same thing. So when the event is over and you ask me how it went and I say I had a great time and I’m definitely going again next year – this means that I had a great time and I’m definitely going again next year and no, I didn’t meet my future husband so don’t ask any more dumb questions.
  3. Don’t mention kids. I’m lucky enough that I’m not really sure if I want kids so I’m not in a hurry to find a guy just for the sake of procreating. I had a co-worker of mine (who is a really great person) mention something to me about her sister, who has been dating a guy for over a year and that she had better get moving because she’s not getting any younger… her sister was 32. Hello??? I’m almost 30 – did you forget that? Don’t pass judgment on us prime, single women because we’re not having babies at 25. Then she proceeds to tell me she’s so happy she had kids when she was young so she can keep up with them and be a young mom. Helloo again??? Sometimes we don’t have a choice in the matter. I don’t want to be 40 if I decide to have kids but maybe that will be the age when I have the opportunity to have them.
  4. You’ll find “the one” when you’re not looking. I’M ALWAYS LOOKING! I really hate that line.
  5. Be happy with what you do have. This is true. I have my own place, a job, a car – I really am thankful. BUT I WANT MORE! There’s nothing like that feeling of being in love.
  6. When you find the right person you’ll know. What do you mean I’ll know? Does a siren go off? Does someone come to me in a dream telling me that he’s the one? Do I get a letter in the mail saying I met my soul-mate? Throw me a bone people!
  7. Stay busy and have a life of your own. I’m almost 30. I don’t go to the bar, I rarely go to pubs and I hang out with my married friends… yeah, I’m real busy.
  8. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen. That’s a load of squash if I ever heard a load of squash. Some people don’t get married or meet their “soul-mate.” How come some people are lucky enough to find true love and some aren’t?
  9. Put yourself out there. I have really done this. I consider myself a quieter person but I really do believe in taking chances and taking a risk especially because it makes my dull life more exciting. For example, I gave gym guy my number. Still waiting on that phone call. Part of the reason I did this is because I would love for someone to do that to me and I wanted to find out if he was interested. If not, I would know and then I could move on to my next poor, helpless victim.
  10. You don’t need a man to complete you. Really? I betcha a single, feminist came up with this. There is a feeling you get from being with a man you’re attracted to that you just don’t get when you’re hanging with your girlfriends. It’s irreplaceable and I don’t want to go through life without it. I think it has to do with chemistry or hormones… really, it’s beyond our control and in our chemical make-up.

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Five ways to meet the toyboy (or cougar) of your dreams that you haven’t thought about

Love is in the air (and hopefully air that’s not full of carbon emissions!) With climate change becoming more mainstream, “eco networking” is a great way to meet people – whether for business or for finding the man or woman of your dreams. Here are five great places and forums that you may not have considered.

1. Visit a Farmers Market

There is no better way to get to know community than heading to your local farmers’ market. Farmers and shoppers are always keen to share their thoughts and ideas on organic food, cooking and healthy living. Farmers markets serve a vital link between country and city living and is the perfect meeting ground for these disparate worlds.

2. Take a gardening or permaculture course

In these financially tough times, people are spending less time traveling and shopping and putting more effort into family and friends. It also means people are picking up new hobbies and pastimes, such as gardening and permaculture. Permaculture is a great way to get in touch with the environment and understand how to make your lifestyle more holistic and earth friendly. (And what better first impression can you make than with hands coated with rich fertile soil.)

3. Volunteer

Plant a tree, clean a park, raise awareness and meet great people. Community groups are full of enthusiastic, knowledgeable and kind hearted peopled just like yourself! You can volunteer at a number of levels, even if sitting in front of the computer is your thing. (Statistical fact – 90 percent of people who volunteer live longer and have better sex than those who don’t. Actually, we just made that up, but we dare someone to tell us it’s not true!)

4. Green dating goes online

Like everyone else, green dating moves online. Today’s mainstream dating sites, like RSVP have Green Communities and forums. There are also a number of great environmental meetup groups, such as GreenUps, which are specifically for greenies keen to network across the space.

5. Take public transport

Sharing in the public transport experience is a communal journey. Commuters meet and greet each other every morning and relish in the fact that they’re universally opting to go greener. (Or they get in a good whinge about how the bus is always late and traffic always slow, but either way, great conversational opener). Cyclers are also a very tight knit group, if you don’t mind a little bit of perspiration.

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